Social Life

Did you ever notice that most of the problems we encounter in our lives are social ones? If you didn’t, then look around: There’s always someone having an argument with another one, a couple splitting up or you and one of your friends having trouble…

It seems that apart from work, friendship or let’s say relationships in general are the one aspect in life that causes most of our problems. Take families as an example: Do you know a single family without any conflicts? I don’t say that it has to be a real big argument every time but there can be smaller issues that worry us…

Especially for me, it’s really hard work to establish a friendship and then it’s even harder work to keep it going… On the one hand, I need friends, I could never live without them, but on the other hand, I have problems with friendships all the time. I don’t really know what those people expect from me and what I can expect from them. It’s always a tightrope walk for me... Some may think that I have a borderline personality disorder but I don’t have it. It’s simply that I’m dependent on friendships and so I can be really devoted at some times but then, the next moment, I feel the urge to withdraw. But that’s not because I don’t love my friends, it’s just that sometimes I can’t cope with all those things surrounding me. So if it gets too much I’ll be away… ;)

But even if it’s easier for you to have friends than it is for me, think about what happens when you lose a friend. How do you feel?

Even though we act like real adults every day, we’re still like teenagers or even children. We’re full of doubts and sometimes we even feel in the same way. Do you remember how it felt when the boy/girl you fell in love with told you that he/she doesn’t love you in return? How you lay on your bed, listened to sad music and cried? Most of the time, adults don’t do this anymore or so they claim… The feeling remains the same and some, if they feel unwatched, still grab their favourite teddy bear and cry and cry and cry…

In the end, when the tears have dried, we look ahead… There will always be new acquaintances and new friendships will form. And even though we know that it’s more than possible that we get hurt again and again and again we accept this cycle.

Maybe there will be a time when we find that one friend/partner/whatever who will break through that cycle. And what would life be without any relationships? ;)

26/10/2011